Your Focus Determines Your RealityGeorge Lucas
Fulfillment is an elusive and somewhat abstract concept that we strive for but can never fully achieve or even define. It is a slippery little devil, that enters and exits our lives at random intervals. I lost that feeling during the last three months of living with my MIL, but our recent move and a renewed sense of purpose, have helped me to regain it. Setting up our home, establishing a healthy routine, having something wonderful to look forward to, meeting new friends, and nurturing existing relationships, have all provided what I needed more of this month to regain energy and focus.
Read ‘Let’s Talk About the R Word’ to learn more about why I chose more as my WOTY for 2022.
When we moved last month, we didn’t go far from where we had owned a home for twenty-two years. But, sometimes it feels like a world away. We have gone from living in a 5,000 SF home for twenty years to a cute little condo on the beach for one month to sharing my MIL’s home for nine months, and now we are settling into a 1200 SF apartment in an age-restricted community. It has been quite the journey.
Yes, I said ‘age-restricted community.’ Residents must be at least fifty-five years old to lease an apartment home here. These types of communities are very popular in sunny retirement states like Florida and Arizona, so you might be familiar with the concept. Anyway, it is much like living in a resort. We chose it because it is new construction, has a floor plan we like, and has fewer units than most apartment complexes in our area, i.e. lower density.
The amenities are geared toward active retirees and include things like a swimming pool, pickle ball court, bocce ball court, gym, fitness classes, movie theater, card room, and even a hair salon. It is a social community, with something happening almost every day. We have no intention of reinventing ourselves here, but, it is a nice place for a pleasant segue on the way to our next destination. It is also proving to be a quality learning experience with regard to aging. More about that in a future post.
Focus on Fitness
Since the Covid fog has lifted, we are easing into apartment living, and returning to some of our old habits, like bike riding. We took three rides this week, extending our distance each time. It has been fun getting to know the neighborhood as we ride. The goal is to ride ten miles at least three times per week throughout the summer and be on the lookout for new discoveries as we go. The cell phone photos below include a sampling of the scenes we passed on our rides this past week.
The most scenic part of the ride is tricky, with narrow bike lanes, a draw bridge, (that might be open) and a railroad track, but it’s worth it.
We discovered a new coffee shop on one of our rides and Malcolm introduced me to one of his favorites overlooking the water. We alternate them for our morning treat.
Always on the lookout for something beautiful as we ride, I spotted this pretty little cottage garden. Wouldn’t you just love to know the person who created this? One day I’m going to stop and knock on her door.
In addition to biking, I have been experimenting with a few YouTube fitness videos and have settled on two favorites – Standing Pilates for over Sixty and Beginner Pilates. I play them on the TV in the Pilates Salon, which I enjoy having all to myself. Both videos are about twenty minutes long and are a good complement to my cardio workouts which include biking, treadmill, and elliptical. With fewer than one-half of the residences leased, the gym is empty most days. A personal trainer comes in every Monday and Friday to assist anyone who wants or needs assistance with the equipment. She is nice to have around and has already taught me a few useful things. Yes, an old dog can learn new tricks.
Focus on Food
I hate to use the word ‘diet’, but Malcolm and I could both stand to lose a few pounds, and we have a major incentive to do just that, so… for the next two months we will be paying very close attention to our calories in, energy out ratio. The meals we make at home are healthy, but Malcolm has a sweet tooth and I love a nice glass of wine or two in the evenings. We also tend to eat more carbs than we should, especially when we go out, i.e. pizza, pasta, and of course, the occasional cheeseburger!
The ‘diet’ consists of cutting our indulgences for all or most of the next two months and increasing cardio exercises. It’s just two months, right?
Focus on Family
If you are wondering about the major incentive to improve our fitness level, that would be our daughter’s wedding. Actually, it’s an elopement (which Covid seems to have made very popular) but she would have done it anyway. Since she was a young girl, her idea of the perfect wedding has always been ‘six people on a beach.’ Somewhere in her travels, she transitioned the notion and it will actually be six people overlooking a vineyard, in September, in Italy. I can’t say more about that just yet, but you can bet there will be a gushing post with way too many photographs from the proud as a peacock, Mother-of-the-bride, at the end of September.
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